Let me give you a short advice. Children and older people must do everything themselves. Dressing, tying shoelaces, washing dishes, making a bed, putting clothes in a closet, turning on and off the TV, doing minimal cleaning, and doing many other things themselves.
Remember the main rule: you should never do work that old people and children can do themselves.
Independence and responsibility are very important for personal development and vitality support. While excessive care always only makes it worse for both children and aged people.
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